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Thursday, October 28, 2010

When The Husband Cooks...

I do feel tired after having a hectic day in school. Then I have to rush back to fetch my twins and when I reach home, I have to cook for dinner. That is a routine for me for these few years. I believe that most working women out there are having the same routine like me.

But, sometimes I do ask my husband to cook something nice for me. He loves cooking, but he doesn't have enough time to show his hidden talent. In fact, he is a better cook than me - believe me.

Most men nowadays know how to cook or they even learn to cook in a way to survive their bachelor years before getting married. They seem to have talent in cooking. Not to say that women are not good in cooking, but there are some women who do not like to cook. But not me - I love cooking and baking but I'm not the type of person who like to eat varieties of food at one time. It could be one dish to satisfy my need. My husband is the same - he will complain if I have cooked few dishes on a certain day.

My point here is - a wife will be appreciated if the husband feels free to cook on a certain day. It could be on Sunday or at any day that he feels like cooking for his wife and children. The family which eats together will have a strong bond - that's what my mother used to say.

My favourite dish would be based on chicken. It could be anything as long as it's based on chicken. My husband eats anything that I have cooked for him and he won't complain. If there's something wrong with the taste, he would let me know in a polite manner. This is because I don't really expert in cooking traditional dishes. I can cook, but not as good as my mom (or his mom). He loves my mom's varieties of food especially the Kelantanese dishes which I don't really intend to learn - somehow I have to learn for his sake (hopefully).

So, for husbands out there - cooking can be a great way to show your love towards your family. Make a way for you wife to have a rest day. It will be a great pleasure for her after working as hard as you...

Choose your dish, and surprise her with your talent. By the way, most wives (that I know) will love to taste the food prepared by their loving husband...Have a nice day...:)

Tuesday, October 26, 2010

Sex Education in School...What's your point of view?

I've been helping our Form Three Co-ordinator for the past few weeks after Penilaian Menengah Rendah (PMR) - an examination for Form Three students. We have done many activities to cater their needs after the big exam. We also have scheduled seminars and talks in terms of life and education.

Today, a quite heavy talk has taken place with the title : HIV : The Causes and Effects. Like usual, I was there to monitor my Form Three students. There were at least one hundred of them today and at least six Form Five classes were there too (it's a part of Form Five program under Caunselling Unit).

So, there was I and not to forget few teachers to monitor their own classes apart from the Form Three students - waiting for the talk to begin. Slowly he (I don't want to mention any agencies) started his talk by doing a slight introduction to his topic. 15 minutes later : he began to show some pictures and videos - I was too shocked to see a video made by him and his co-workers and I have to walk away to get some fresh air. I felt muzzy, dizzy and nauseated after watching that video. I even threw up!

I saw a Malay couple 'doing the thing' on a bike - fully dressed but well performed. The students started to shout and make some silly noises. I know that most of them are exposed to the whole idea, but to show it clearly is not really a good way. But still, he went on and on talking about the 'ways' and the 'effects' especially to the girls without giving a single thought of his choice of words. I felt sick through the whole day. I have to sit outside without watching any other slides or videos.

Some girls even threw up after watching a male-masturbation video shown during his talk. Lucky me - I wasn't there to watch it. I might collapse immediately. The video was not a short one, by the way.

And then some boys were restless after seeing those fancy videos of him and started to act out in the hall. And discipline teachers were there to make things look normal again. Thanks to them, I have my peace at last.

I wonder...If the Sex Education is a part of school's syllabus, who's going to teach it? I'm sure the science teacher will have something to say about it. Or even Ustazah or Ustaz (for Islam education) would do something about it. Well, there are advantages and disadvantages in teaching the sex education I guess, but still, I believe the students should be thought in a gentle, discreet ways. Not to mention the usage of those fancy videos - they would only arouse the students' nature to try out those actions. I don't dare to think the consequences of today's talk. I wouldn't!

But...who am I to give such ideas? I'm just an ordinary teacher and a mother of two. My thoughts would have never been allowed to be discussed anywhere. What would you say? The important question for the day : What do you really think of it?

Sunday, October 24, 2010

Furry Vengeance

It's movie time. This time I've chosen the above movie and watched it with my twins. Although the movie has received negative reviews, but it has values in it. It's all about protecting our mother nature / forest from cruel developers who are only making money while destructing it.



From left : Brooke Sheilds, Brendan Fraser, Matt Prokop, Skyler Samuels.

The Racoon a.k.a The Mastermind of the vengeance

For me, it is a suitable movie to be watched with your small children because they can learn about the importance of protecting the earth and to save the animals from extinction. The scenes are appropriate too for them.

Have fun!!!

Thursday, October 21, 2010

Serba salah dibuatnya....

Pernahkah anda mengalami situasi di mana rakan baik / saudara / adik beradik (dan lain-lain hubungan yang ada) memohon bantuan dari segi pendapat dan nasihat anda berhubung pelbagai jenis isu? Saya pasti anda akan cuba memberi nasihat dan pandangan yang anda rasakan bernas dan bijak.

Namun, selalukah nasihat dan pandangan anda itu diterima pakai? Atau pun...terima kasih sajalah... itu saja yang diterima setelah berbuih-buih mulut anda menyatakan pendapat anda? Emmm...apa yang anda rasa pada ketika itu? Geram? Marah? Sakit hati? Tuhan saja yang tahu...

Saya selalu juga mengalami situasi sebegitu di mana selalunya saya akan makan hati kerana pendapat saya dianggap tidak sesuai, sedangkan selalunya mereka yang terlibat akan membuat keputusan sendiri....Saya pun hairan, jikalau mereka sebenarnya tidak inginkan pendapat orang lain, tidak perlu lah menyibukkan diri bertanya itu dan ini kepada orang sekeliling. Kalau dah rasa diri tu betul sangat...buatlah keputusan sendiri, habis cerita. Hati orang lain pun tak sakit.

Kadang-kala mereka sebegini memang dah buat keputusan, tetapi sengaja ingin menghabiskan masa lapang dengan bertanya kepada ramai orang tentang sesuatu perkara yang perlu dibuat keputusan yang tepat. Tidak kiralah warna kain ke, jenis kasut ke, atau ke mana destinasi percutian sekali pun, buatlah keputusan berdasarkan penilaian anda sendiri. Jika masalah cerai berai, masalah yang kronik, mungkin boleh lah berjumpa pakar. Ini pada pandangan saya sebagai individu yang selalu terkena. Kalau dah ada perancangan sendiri, tak perlulah menyusahkan saya dengan bertanya pendapat dan kemudiannya membuat keputusan tanpa menimbang pendapat saya. Geram betul!!!

Manusia itu memang fitrahnya ingin jadi yang sempurna. Tetapi harus ingat, kita perlukan panduan untuk membuat sebarang keputusan, tindakan dan sebagainya. Saya selalu bertanyakan kepada suami, keluarga dan teman-teman jika saya tidak mampu membuat keputusan sendiri atau pun saya tidak mampu memilih jalan penyelesaian yang sesuai kepada mana-mana masalah. Jika saya mampu, saya akan cuba mengusahakan sendiri. Tetapi kebiasaannya suami merupakan penyelesai masalah saya kerana dia merupakan orang yang sabar dan tidak mudah melatah.

Yang membuat saya menyampah...orang yang meminta pendapat tetapi akhirnya tetap dengan keputusan yang TELAH dibuat sejak awal-awal lagi. Kan dah menyusahkan orang...Tapi, sudah resam Orang Melayu...kang kalau cakap kang, kecik hati pulak....huhuhu. Pendekatan yang saya selalu buat...Diam sahajalah.....

Tuesday, October 19, 2010

Malaysiakah ini?

Hari ni ada urusan di Bank di Selayang...berhampiran Pasar Borong. Hampir 1.30 petang dan perut dah menyanyi minta diisi. Kebetulan pula saya menunggu suami kerana dia perlu hadir bersama. Maka, mundar-mandirlah saya mencari kedai-kedai makan yang menarik.

Terdapat banyak restoran tetapi hanya satu restoran yang ada logo Islam. Maka saya melangkah kaki ke dalam restoran itu. Lambang Bismillah dan ayat-ayat suci Al-Quran memang terdapat di dalam restoran tersebut. Malah pekerjanya juga memakai tudung.

Saya segera ke bahagian lauk-pauk yang kelihatan menarik. Malangnya, apabila saya ingin meminta nasi putih, pekerja perempuan tersebut tercengang-cengang. Malah ramai pelanggan yang sedang enak menjamu selera pada ketika itu sibuk memerhatikan saya. Rasa macam makhluk asing pula.

Saya mengulangi lagi permintaan..."Saya nak nasi putih separuh..." Tetapi pekerja perempuan itu menunjukkan bahasa isyarat tangan tanda tidak faham - berulang-ulang kali. Saya berasa agak takut apabila beberapa orang pekerja lelaki menghampiri saya...

Maka, tanpa berlengah lagi..."Maaf, saya nak telefon suami saya kejap. Nanti saya datang balik..." Itu saja yang mampu saya ucapkan. Saya menoleh seketika, tiada seorang pelanggan Melayu pun di dalam restoran itu. Saya musykil juga, sedangkan saya berada di Selayang, bukannya Nepal, Bangladesh atau negara-negara asing kerana pekerjanya langsung tidak faham bahasa Melayu.

Saya berasa lega kerana tidak lama kemudian suami saya muncul. Saya terus menceritakan keadaan tadi. Rupa-rupanya dia juga pernah terkena. Kebanyakan restoran di situ berkemungkinan besar milik warga tempatan tetapi diusahakan oleh warga asing. Kalaulah saya tahu...

Setelah urusan selesai...saya terus memandu ke McD saja...habis cerita. Perut pun kenyang...

Monday, October 18, 2010

MAGIKA


Last Friday my husband brought us to TGV Jaya Jusco (Bandar Tun Hussien Onn) to watch this interesting Malay Film known as Magika. Full with nice songs and scenes, I was mesmerized with the pictures and the flow of the film is better than any Malay movies that I have watched before.

I am not really interested in Malay movies because the quality of most of them are not really good. I don't know why they are not able to get my attention. But Magika was a different story. I was waiting for the film since it's started to being filmed.

Each song is suitable for each scene. I like the scene whereby Badang (Mawi) was having a fight with Nenek Kebayan (Ziana Zain). They were fighting while singing a song - just like watching a Broadway show. And the scene whereby The Dragon (M. Nasir) asked Badang, Ayu and Malik - where are they going to go? He only sang two lines but the lines were repeated with different tones until he changed himself into a fierce dragon.

For me, my money hasn't gone into the drain because the quality itself has made me stuck to the seat until the lights went off. For those who like musical, you should watch this film because you'll never regret watching it. But, for those who are not in favor of songs...you should not go because you'll tend to critize the film at the end of the show.

Give it a try....

Friday, October 15, 2010

Waiting for the Weekends....

What is in your mind right now? Thinking about Saturday or Sunday? Or for those who love their jobs so much...they are already thinking about Monday. I'm sure most of us will be waiting for weekend to arrive. It is the only time to relax and have a pleasant day with family.

What will you guys usually do? Well...  I guess there are plenty of things to be done on weekend. For me, it's the time for me to do the ironing, cleaning the house and many more. But the best way to spend my weekend is to bring my twins to the park or shopping mall. Window shopping is a kind of treatment for me. And my twins are not a spender. They don't really like to buy toys because since they were young, I would say that I don't have enough money to buy those expensive toys. They would understand and they would only receive toys on certain events only. (What a relief!)

Watching movies is one way to spend your weekend. Either with your loved ones or even by yourself, it is a pleasant thing to do. My advice is that to watch a worth-watching movie. Get a review first and then watch that movie without getting any frustration later on. Comedy would be nice...remember, you are reducing your stress level - not the opposite way....

Cooking can be fun too. For my case, I like baking the most. I would bake cakes, breads, make some puddings and so many more. My twins love those food very much. Why don't you try to cook or to bake? It would be fun to do those activities with your kids. Children love to play around with flour and mixing things. (Except if you're a hot-tempered person...it is not a suggestion...if you know what I mean)

I have read somewhere...scrubbing floor or any items that can be scrubbed can help you to reduce stress level too. It's said that while you are scrubbing, you are not thinking anything except being focussed to the stain that should not be there on the first place. Well...it is not suggested if you're having back-ache or any other sickness that can lead you to collapse.

For a working woman like me (and there are so many of us out there), I love weekend so much. I hate going to crowded places because I will get tired easily. Working as a teacher is enough for me to face so many people in week days. I don't want to torture my mental health anymore. And to do that...I like watching Korean Dramas and Movies via online...especially romantic comedy...it helps to make me much more healthier....

Last but not least....having enough rest is essential for you to get stronger for the upcoming week. It might be a short rest, but your body, mind and soul need enough rest in a way to be healthier inside and out. Have a nice a weekend dear readers....

Wednesday, October 13, 2010

Julie & Julia

This week movie is called Julie & Julia...based on two different true stories but related to each other. It might be a boring one if you don't like cooking and blogging...


This movie is interesting to me me because I like true stories. They inspire me to see life from different perspectives. Julie Powell loves Julia Child who learns how to cook while she was staying in Paris with her husband in 1948. Meanwhile, in 2002, Julie Powell started to challenge herself to try out all the 524 Recipesin 365 Days - in her small kitchen.

Although I have read some negative comments about the movie, I still like the way Julie forced herself over the limit each time she fails in doing the things that she loves the most - cooking and blogging.

This movie is can be a motivation for those who are trying to do things but suddenly stop in the middle of the process to begin another project without finishing the first thing first. Just like me.....

Love Story...Do you have one?

While watching some movies this week make me ponder about something which I know that most of us will think about it sometimes. First crush or first love...does it ring a bell? Well, I'm sure many of us have experienced it before in our lives.

Do you still remember the face of that particular one who stole your heart at the first sight? Or do you still remember your first date with that one? It might be a long time ago, but it sure was something worth to remember.

When I got married to my husband, I told him that he is not my first crush. He took it easily and told me that I'm not his first crush too. So, we have our own so called love story before we were finally tied up with a bond. The reason I mention the first love or the first crush is that to let us remember the ways we use to do while we were in a relationship - before getting married.

The man will always try to be as romantic, caring, and helpful as much as possible. The lady would try as best as she can to potray a perfect lady while standing in front of him. My question is...Why can't some of us stay the same after getting married to the person that we chose to be together till death do us part?

Some men changed into different personalities...tend to get mad / angry easily. They tend to take things for granted and don't want to share their feelings with their wives. From my point of view (seeing from my working place, my relatives and my friends), somehow I have listened to the same story over and over again. Not to mention that some husbands tend to get married AGAIN after living more than 10 years with the first, chosen one - the first wife. I feel sad for those wives because the reasons are the same...

I still couldn't understand what is it so vital for men to get married AGAIN after living and having so many kids with the one that you chose to be together and you have vowed that you will never leave her forever. It seems to me that COMMUNICATION is the main factor.

During our first five years of marriage, we were just like any other couples. We have ups and downs but we managed to dig in and solve each problem that we had. But still, Communication is one of the keys to make it work. And one thing that I have learned all this while is ... the wife's job will never ends. I don't want to blame the husbands, but I do think that a marriage is just like a small boat with two paddles. If only one person is paddling with all strength and might, the boat will never go far. But if those two people try so hard to make the boat move faster, it will surely reach the finishing line quickly than others.

So, as a wife, I do believe that we should not be a queen control. Or we should not ask too much from the husband (if the husband can give you everything...by all means...take it...). Try not to lecture him straight away when he reaches home after work. He is not a robot. Give him time to relax and spoil him a bit. Then you can tell him everything that you are dying to tell him that day. But...use your psychological abililty...

As a wife...I also believe that a husband should learn to remember some important dates that mean everything to his wife. A husband should learn how to express his feeling to his wife. Surpressing your feeling will make things worsen. Listen to her while she is talking. She just needs a shoulder to share everything that she has in her mind. Spoil her once in a while. She's too tired with the household, the children and the working place. Let her have a-one-day-off...It might cheer her up.

Always remember that...we decide our future...we decide our path...somehow, we need a great partner to decide how to rule our marriage. It's not too late to sit and talk about the happiness and the sadness in your marriage. Sharing means caring. Crying doesn't mean that you are weak. And please remember...love is just like a tree...water it properly and nurse it carefully...the love will grow stronger than ever. Love story should not have a sad ending. Fall in love again with your partner and be in love forever...

Monday, October 11, 2010

A Sceptical Thought....

This morning I read an article written by a famous writer in Malaysia. I don't want to mention her name. It hurts me when she wrote that she has not got married yet because Malaysian men are not good enough for her. Who is she just to write something about that in general?

I'm proud to be a Malaysian. And I'm proud to be married with a Malaysian man. Actually, it is about her choices. I felt a little bit nauseated when I read the whole article she wrote about finding 'the correct husband'. She is now 40 and she has too much to offer (that's what she said about her). And she has mentioned about scientific research that a woman at the age 40 and above will have problems in conceiving children due to some sort 'technical problems' inside the woman's body. And she blamed the men because they tend to find younger women to be their wives.

From my personal point of view, you should not blame other people just because you are not able to find the correct match for you. You have to try to lower your demands before you choose the man of your dream. By the way...she needs a handsome man with a bungalow and a sport car...(don't you see where the problems come from?)

Men are not really alike at certain point. They are different although we might say that it is in their blood to do 'their things'. So, we should not judge a man and then conclude that all men are the same. I'm a woman and I disagree with the written article. I felt that she has this typical thought of judging men.

If she is a-25-year-old lady, it would be the best time to settle down and have a family. A woman has her own biological clock. We cannot stop it from telling us that we have to stop producing our heirs. And then the husbands will say...it's time to find the new ones. Men will always be men, but we should not let it be in the middle of our relationship. By the way...I'm not saying that it is bad to get married late. It is a matter of finding the right match at the right time. It is all in the God's hand. (Allah has His ways for all of us).

In Islam also, our Prophet, Nabi Muhammad S.A.W once said that...getting married is one way to produce more Muslims and to prevent adultery. So, marriage is a sacred bond and it must not be based on human's lust on everything. If it is based on lust...the bond will not be sacred anymore.

I do agree that money is important, but to list down all the materials needed before knowing a person seems quite absurd to me. If you want to get married...choose a pious man, a man with a job (can provide you with food, shelter and clothes), a man who respects both his and the woman's parents, and not to forget...don't choose a man who can hit you easily.

I don't think that love is blind, but we are blinded by love towards someone that we thought we love so much. Love means to give, to share, to rejoice, to care, and to be together until death do us part. Choosing someone to love is not easy, but you have to try and not to let all the sceptical thoughts interfere with your choices.

In conclusions...don't simply blame other people for your own misunderstanding about something. You might end up hurting other people's feelings...

Angel of Death...

When we talk about death...what is it that you will think first? Is it your parents? Is it your wealth? Or is it yourself? Last Thursday, my aunt passed away after being sick for more than one year. She was a great woman, a kind aunt and a wonderful mother of four. She was my father's sister (my father is the eldest of nine siblings and my aunt was the third child).

Her children were with her since the day she found out that she was having this mysterious sickness that the doctor couldn't even tell. But the day she died, the doctor just said that she was having serious germ-infections. I don't really understand about that, but what I really know that she had suffered greatly this year. I couldn't bear to watch her without crying.

I felt relieved for her children because they have done a tremendous job tending their mother in the deathbed. They took care everything until the end. They are good children in the sense that they have the opportunity to take care of her while she was alive. For me, it was the greatest way to show their love towards their mother. They would leave everything just to take care of her needs.

They lost their mother and we lost our aunt. We felt sad but not to compare with her children's sorrow of losing their beloved mother. One thing for sure, they were there to witness everything - every single moment until she left them forever. It was sad, but it will happen to all of us whether we like it or not.

When we talk about death, have you done everything that you should have done in your life? Whether it is about you or any other people, you should have planned your life before hand. If you are rich enough, you might give all your wealth to your family. But if you come from a moderate background, you should save some money for your children in the future. You can't even tell when the death is coming to get you, can you? Well, better be safe than sorry...The Angel of Death will never wait for you...

I hate talking about death, but I always tell my husband that I allow him to remarry with someone else if I die someday. And then we will have this little argument because he hates listening to this topic. But, I do think that we have to consider that as a fact of life (a matter of life and death - don't you think?)

So, because I come from a moderate family, I have opened a bank account for my twins and put some money just for the rainy days...and I have alloted some money for insurance - just in case I died of accidents. Who knows our death-date (is it correct?). Well, I should be doing something good before I left them someday...

I really pray that I will live long enough until my twins have finally grown up. Then I think I can rest in peace because they can take care of their lives for me...it hurts me everytime I think about that. But life is written for us. We have to follow where it takes us to...until the end.

Friday, October 8, 2010

Berakhirnya satu episod...

Khabar yang diterima amat mendukacitakan
hati kami yang terikat tali persaudaraan,
Perginya dia dirasakan terlalu cepat
kerana kasih sayangnya masih diperlukan.

Tenangnya wajah seakan redha dipanggil
pergi mengadap Kekasihnya di sana,
Sejuk dan kaku terbujur di sana
hingga meruntun jiwa kami yang melihatnya.


Berpisahlah kami dengan jasadnya
hanya doa menjadi iringannya,
Moga rohnya sentiasa aman tenteram
menempuh perjalanan yang sudah tertulis.

Air mata tanda kesayuan
namun kami redha dengan pemergian,
Semua yang berlaku telah tersurat
kerana Allah Maha Penyayang.

Melangkah lesu ke rumah terakhir
melihat dia direhatkan di sana,
Tinggal lah dia seorang diri
namun kami sentiasa akan berbakti.

Talkin dibaca doa dipohon
moga membantu perjalanannya kelak,
Mohon Allah permudahkan segala
kerana kami sangat menyayanginya.

Kepada yang masih bernyawa
harus sentiasa ingat,
Kematian itu telah tersurat...
Jangan terlalu taksub dengan dunia,
Ingatlah kepada akhirat juga.

Mohonlah kemaafan selagi hayat masih ada,
Jangan ditunggu sehingga akhir waktu,
Ingatlah kepada ibu dan bapa,
Berbaktilah selagi kamu mampu.

Kepada yang kehilangan yang tersayang,
Moga sentiasa tabah dan tenang,
Kerana jodoh, pertemuan dan kematian
sudah tersurat dan tidak dapat dielakkan.

Innalillah...Al-Fatihah....

Thursday, October 7, 2010

Dear Male Readers: A little help here....please...

I wonder...what should I get for his upcoming birthday? Buying gifts for your girlfriends or any other women are easy, but when it comes to choosing gifts for male friends or even your husband, it can be quite challenging. Maybe because there are limited things for them.

I've been thinking of wallet or maybe a belt...so cliche in the sense of taste. But I don't exactly know what to give. The same thing happens every single year and I have to rotate all my gifts so that they will not spoil the celebration. Although my husband doesn't mind me buying anything, but still, I have no idea this year.

He will turn 30 this year. He said he doesn't expect me to buy presents. In fact, he is a simple husband without any demands. Baking cake and cooking dinner will be the same things prepared by me - for every single years. Being friends since 13 years old (still being good friends now) and being married to him for 8 years now...still, I don't have a clue what to give him on his birthday.

Reminders: He doesn't like necktie. He hates pyjamas. I have to bring him together if to buy him a pair of shoes or snickers (won't be a surprise!). He has so many wallets. He has so many belts. He only wears cologne sometimes (he still has a bottle which is not fully used). He has so many pants and shirts. He has plenty of t-shirts.

So...what should I buy for him for his 30th birthday? Someone...male readers...please tell me. I have only one week left....

Wednesday, October 6, 2010

The Back-up Plan

Jennifer Lopez is a talented woman. She has everything that she wants. I love her movies especially romantic-comedy because it helps me to relax and laugh out loud. So, watching this movie makes me smiling to my ear because it is about 'expecting' the new ones.

I have experienced a pregnancy with twins and I know that it is hard to carry extra baggage when you are supposed to have one during your first pregnancy. One thing that I like about Hollywood movies is that they will make things seem so real...like Jennifer's bloated stomach.


Zoe (Jennifer) has thought about living alone as a single parent and then she decided to get inseminated with someone's sperms. But things happened after the insemination whereby she met Stan (Alex) accidentally and started their love story. Many funny incidents happened after that and I like the moment when Stan freaked out after knowing that Zoe has concieved twins.

This movie is not suitable for under-age viewers. Don't expect actions because this movie is just to help you ease your mind after working hard all day. Have fun...

Tuesday, October 5, 2010

The Revolt Of Gumiho

I love Korean Dramas. This week is the final week for this drama. It is about Grudge: The Revolt of Gumiho (Gumiho: Tale of the Fox’s Child).
The story is interesting with a nice plot throughout the whole series. But what I love the most is the facial effects or make up effects for each scene. It looks so realistic.

It's about the nine-tailed-fox who has a daughter and eager to become a human after marrying a human man. She will become a human after ten years of marriage. But there's a catch. The husband should not tell anyone about her...

Watch the series and tell me about it....


If you like the watch the drama, you can buy the whole sets of DVDs or even watch the series at:
http://www.mysoju.com/           or            http://www.dramacrazy.net/.

Have fun. Especially those Korean Dramas' fans.

Wife....Sulking?

A wife has the right to SULK! Whether the husband likes it or not, I believe that is the ultimate power to melt his heart for neglecting the wife's feeling. I'm talking about husband-and-wife-relationship. The ultimate relationship with a strong bond. Not some kind of stupid love affair without a string.

As a Muslim I believe in marriage to avoid many bad things that could happen either to our physical or mental health. I don't believe in 'affairs' before marriage (if you know what I mean). But nowadays, couples tends to have those kinds of affairs before marriage.

I don't want to touch more on that. What I want to stress on is that I know that a wife has the right to get what she deserves best after giving her all out in a day of working and being a mother. Not to forget to tend to his needs. Don't go to far into his 'needs' because the elaboration doesn't really fit in here!

Being a teacher in school and being a mom at the same time is not really fun. Sometimes it could be fun but I do need some rest at home too after working more than 8 hours in school. But when I reached home, my exhaustion seems to get even worse! It is so hard to help your wife at home? Is it too difficult to do some chores at home? We are husband and wife - for God's sake! We are supposed to be a good team!

Don't tell me that a husband will lose his dignity if he helps his wife to do the chores. I'm sure most of the wives nowadays are working at the same level with their husbands (or maybe higher than the husband - pardon me!). Earning money is not the husband's concern anymore. It is one way or another. But, the wife can manage to do many works at the same time. Multi-tasking is not impossible for most of us, right?

Still, husbands seems to forget that the wives can be so exhausted after a tiring day with the work, the children and the household. So, be considerate for us, will you? It will lessen our burdens and we will love you guys even more. Remember, we use to hold our anger for quite some times. Don't let it out if you want to be safe in this field.

Hope and Pray...

PMR has finally started for Form 3 Students. This morning I saw the faces of my dearest students. Some of them were holding books - pretending to do the last minute study. And some of them were busy catching up new stories as they were on leave yesterday.

I saw some students who came from 'not so good class' were busy flipping through their books as if they were memorizing things from it. The truth is, they have never paid any attention while the teacher was teaching in class since January until September. They were busy sleeping and day-dreaming all day.
I felt sorry for those students and for their parents who have spent a lot of money just for their education.

Teenagers nowadays don't seem to care about their future or even about their parents who work night and day just to earn enough money for them. I felt sorry for those parents. When I met some of my students this morning (I'm teaching intermediate classes), they asked me to pray for them.

Praying is one thing and striving is a different thing. But still, I will pray for them because I love them so much that I couldn't bear to see them being a failure. I really hope that they can achieve the best because this exam will determine which class they are going to be in next year.

I know that many teachers will feel the stress right now as our students are trying so hard after three years studying for this examination. Whether our students can get what they want or not, they should have known better that Rome was not built in just one day....

Monday, October 4, 2010

Kasih Ibu Saudara....

Kadang kala hidup ini sukar dijangka. Kadang-kadang di atas dan selalunya di bawah. Betul ke? Hmmm...namu hidup, mati, jodoh pertemuan itu semua di tangan Allah. Semalam saya menerima berita sedih...Mak Lang saya (adik ayah yang nombor tiga) dimasukkan ke ICU.

Sebak hati ketika bercakap dengan anak bongsu Mak Lang yang juga sepupu merangkap sahabat baik baik saya sejak kecil. Menangis dibuatnya ketika dia berkata..."Kami adik beradik redha kalau Ma ditakdirkan pergi malam ni. Ma dah lama menanggung kesakitan sejak 8 / 9 tahun yang lepas. Penyakit yang doktor pun tidak tahu hujung pangkalnya."

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